The importance of developing emotional intelligence in children’s early years

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17 November 2025

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Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to recognise, understand and manage one’s own emotions whilst also being able to empathise with and respond appropriately to the emotions of others. This article and podcast episode delve into this subject to explore what we can do to support emotional intelligence in the earliest years.

Understanding emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to recognise, understand and manage one’s own emotions whilst also being able to empathise with and respond appropriately to the emotions of others.

The early years – A crucial developmental period

In the early years of childhood, typically from birth to around eight years old, the foundations for emotional intelligence are laid. These formative years are a period of rapid brain development, social learning and emotional growth, making them a crucial time for nurturing emotional awareness and self-regulation.

The role of relationships in emotional development

Developing emotional intelligence in early childhood begins with relationships. Young children learn to understand emotions primarily through their interactions with parents, caregivers and peers. When caregivers respond sensitively to a child’s emotional cues such as comforting them when they are upset or acknowledging their joy, they help the child build trust and emotional security.

This responsive care approach teaches children that their feelings are valid and that emotions can be expressed safely. Over time such experiences support the development of self-awareness, which is one of the key components of emotional intelligence.

Building emotional regulation skills

Another essential aspect of emotional regulation is the ability to manage emotions in healthy ways. For young children this might mean learning to take deep breaths when frustrated or seeking help when overwhelmed. Early years educators and caregivers play a vital role in modelling these behaviours.

By calmly navigating conflicts, expressing empathy and labelling emotions: “I can see that you’re feeling angry because…”, adults provide children with the language and tools they need to understand and control their feelings. These early lessons form the basis for resilience, helping children cope with challenges later in life.

Social skills and emotional intelligence

Social skills also develop alongside emotional intelligence. Children who can identify and express emotions effectively tend to have stronger relationships with peers and adults. They learn to take turns, share and resolve conflicts in a more, natural manner.

This ability to empathise and communicate is crucial for successful social interactions and cooperation in group settings like nurseries or classrooms. Emotional intelligence therefore supports not only personal wellbeing but also social wellbeing and learning readiness.

Long-term benefits of emotional intelligence

The importance of emotional intelligence extends beyond childhood. Research shows that children with higher emotional intelligence often experience better mental health, academic achievement and overall life satisfaction as they grow older. They are better equipped to manage stress, make responsible decisions and build meaningful relationships (Pool and Qualter, 2018). On the flip side, difficulties with emotional understanding or regulation can contribute to behavioural difficulties, anxiety and poor social outcomes.

Supporting emotional intelligence in practice

Educators and parents can nurture emotional intelligence through consistent routines, open communication and emotional literacy activities. Storytelling, role play and discussions about feelings in everyday situations encourage children to think about emotions in themselves and others.

Providing safe opportunities for emotional expression through crafts, play or conversation helps children build confidence in handling their experiences as they live them.

Conclusion

In summary, developing emotional intelligence in the early years is vital in forming healthy wider development. It influences how children relate to themselves and others and how they both learn and navigate the world.

By prioritising emotional education alongside academic learning, parents and educators help children develop the empathy, resilience and self-awareness needed to form the foundation for lifelong wellbeing and success.

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Key takeaways

  • Emotional intelligence begins in the earliest years of life, with brain development, social learning and emotional growth all intertwined.
  • Warm, responsive relationships with adults help children feel emotionally safe, laying the foundations for trust, self-awareness and emotional security.
  • When adults model and scaffold emotional regulation (naming feelings, staying calm, offering strategies), children develop resilience and tools for managing stress and conflict.
  • Emotional intelligence supports social skills, learning readiness and long-term wellbeing, influencing mental health, relationships and life satisfaction into adulthood.

Critical considerations

  • How consistently do I validate and name children’s emotions, including those that feel uncomfortable or disruptive in the moment?
  • In what ways do my daily routines, transitions and expectations support or challenge children’s ability to regulate their emotions?
  • How am I modelling emotional regulation myself – what do children see and hear from me when I feel stressed, frustrated or joyful?
  • Whose emotional experiences are most visible and responded to in my setting, and are there any children whose feelings risk being overlooked or misinterpreted?

References and further reading

Pool, L.D. and Qualter, P. eds., 2018. An introduction to emotional intelligence. John Wiley & Sons.

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